blow hot and cold
US /blo hɑt ænd koʊld/
・UK /bləʊ hɒt ænd kəʊld/
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idm.気分が変わりやすい
She blows hot and cold about moving abroad, unsure at times.
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キエフへの2夜連続攻撃、ロシアの新たな戦術 (New Russian tactic on the second consecutive night of attacks on Kyiv)
- But I think the feeling is that given the unpredictability, so to say, of the Trump administration and the fact that this president in the White House seems to blow hot and cold on Ukraine, depending upon his mood at any given hour, that really the adults in the room, the European leaders who are so much closer to Ukraine, really have to focus on providing the assistance Ukraine needs at a time when we're seeing the pressure from Russia is increasing.
しかし、トランプ政権の予断を許さない状況や、ホワイトハウスの大統領がその時々の気分によってウクライナに対して熱くなったり冷めたりしていることを考えると、ウクライナに近い欧州の指導者たちは、ロシアからの圧力が強まっている今、ウクライナが必要としている支援を提供することに集中しなければならない。
- I think the, the feeling is that given the unpredictability, so to say, of the Trump administration and, uh, the fact that this president in the White House seems to blow hot and cold on Ukraine depending upon his mood at any given hour, uh, that really the adults in the room, the European leaders who are so much closer to Ukraine, uh, really have to focus on providing the kind of assistance Ukraine needs at a time when we're seeing the pressure from Russia is increasing.
そして、欧州の人々は、もし彼らが立ち上がらず、米国に依存し続ければ、ウクライナはこの3年前の戦争で深刻な敗北を喫する可能性があることを理解していると思う。 言いたいことはわかる。
なぜ私たちは傷つけてきた人を愛し続けるのか (Why We Can't Stop Loving Those Who Hurt Us)
- But for others among us, this is when we begin to show our distinctive colours. Hope springs eternal. Yes, the partner may presently be somewhat disappointing, but soon they may recover. Admittedly, they have become hugely unkind in many ways, but they did apologise nicely last week, before repeating their offence, and so there is a decent chance, we believe, that things will be on an upswing over the longer term. To outside observers, the faith that we have in our partner can appear quasi-religious. Why do we keep giving our unreliable companion so much leeway? Why do we hope against hope? Why don't we cut our losses right now and leave? Why are we so convinced that with just a little more effort on our part, one more discussion, one more long email sent in the early hours, everything will alter? Furthermore, perhaps why do we keep assuming that we have done something wrong and that it is primarily our role to apologise and make amends? The explanation is that we grew into hopeful people not by choice, but of necessity. We almost certainly spent our childhoods in circumstances where we had no option but to become enormous believers in our parents and, simultaneously, enormous doubters of ourselves. When little, we couldn't afford to think that our parents were simply disappointing, wounded people with whom we shouldn't interact too much and then walk away. We were four years old. So we did what children of unfulfilling parents always do. We started to think ill of ourselves. We developed a genius for wondering what was wrong with us and for assembling complicated and overly generous explanations for the bad behaviour of others. We evolved an expectant stance towards whatever morsel of love our parent might throw our way. We became excited by deprivation. All day they might have been ill-tempered and cruel to us. Perhaps at nightfall, they might say something sweet and ruffle our hair. This became the most exciting and appalling game of our lives. As adults, we continue to be addicted to this tension. It has come to seem that this is what love is, the pain-tinged, continuous expectation that an unfulfilling person might abruptly turn round and be nice to us again. Love is waiting for someone who was once slightly kind to resume their interest. It doesn't strike us that love might actually be something quite different, simpler and less tortured. An ongoing, reliable exchange of mutually respectful sympathy and gentleness. And if it's not this, that we should leave at once. Indeed, if we have the troubled fortune to meet a reliable soul, we will probably respond to them with a feeling of nausea and bewilderment and flee in short order. Perhaps back to the last unfulfilling partner. The toll we pay in terms of wasted years is lamentable. Whereas others among us can enjoy calm, kindly relationships, we will get locked into exhausting scenarios with perturbed individuals who very subtly mess us around, who say one thing and do another, who don't give us physical affection or blow hot and cold, who may be having affairs and keep promising to change and don't. And the worst is that for all our suffering, this somehow excites us, this keeps us on our toes, this feels like what we need to keep doing. We know nothing else. We have to start to believe what our childhoods never allowed us to think. Some people need to be given up on. Certain seemingly ordinary and good people are in fact very damaged and will hurt and bully those around them. Some people with a few lovely qualities to them will, considered in the round, work an entirely negative effect on our lives. It's not our role to keep second-guessing unfulfilling people, to spin elaborate stories as to why they may be doing what they do.
しかし、私たちの中の他の人たちにとっては、この時期が私たちの特徴的な色を見せ始めるときなのだ。希望は永遠に湧いてくる。そう、今のところパートナーは多少がっかりしているかもしれないが、すぐに立ち直るかもしれない。確かに、相手は多くの点で非常に不親切になったが、先週はきちんと謝ったし、また同じことを繰り返す前に謝った。私たちのパートナーに対する信頼は、外部から見ると宗教的なものに見えるかもしれない。なぜ私たちは、頼りない伴侶にこれほど自由を与え続けるのだろうか？なぜ希望に反して希望を抱くのか？なぜ今すぐにでも
- Whereas others among us can enjoy calm, kindly relationships, we will get locked into exhausting scenarios with perturbed individuals who very subtly mess us around, who say one thing and do another, who don't give us physical affection or blow hot and cold, who may be having affairs and keep promising to change and don't.
対談：アラン・デ・ボトンがジェイミー・レインと「素晴らしい仲間」について語る (In Conversation: Alain de Botton on Great Company with Jamie Laing)
- It's, you know, the ones who the ones who come and go and, you know, blow hot and cold for for a few minutes, you know, we'll we'll get over them.
それは、ほら、来ては去り、ほら、数分間熱くなったり冷たくなったりする人たちのことで、ほら、私たちは彼らを乗り越えるでしょう。
- It's, you know, the ones who the ones who come and go and, you know, blow hot and cold for for a few minutes, you know, we'll we'll get over them.
ええと、ほら、あの古い言葉、悲しみは愛の代償だ。
パートナー選びで犯しがちな9つの間違い (The 9 Most Common Mistakes We Make when Choosing a Partner)
- It can take a long time to develop immunity to the appeal of those who blow hot and cold, hate themselves, refuse our affections, deceive us and fall into rages and despair late at night.
熱くなったり冷たくなったり、自分を憎んだり、愛情を拒んだり、私たちを欺いたり、深夜に激怒したり絶望したりする人たちの魅力に対する免疫力をつけるには、長い時間がかかる。
- It can take a long time to develop immunity to the appeal of those who blow hot and cold, hate themselves, refuse our affections, deceive us,
他人を信頼し、心理療法に通い、ガーデニングをし、自分のことが好きで、両親を愛しているような、まともで信頼できる退屈な人々の、並外れた長所と微妙なエキゾチシズムに気づくのは、中年になってからかもしれない。